社交规则:好友圈不要轻易扩容,人太多会使亲密度下降


小王有一个朋友圈,圈内有六个人。每个人都彼此非常熟悉,关系非常好。后来,小王觉得这六个人有点想进一步扩大他们的朋友圈,所以我建议大家把他们的朋友拉到圈子里。通过这种方式,朋友圈成为十四个人,并建立了微信群。一开始,新老会员都非常热情,经常聚在一起,和其他人的朋友成了朋友。然而,经过一段时间,小王发现发现的六个人并不像以前那么亲密。朋友圈中有三四个小圆圈,他们再也找不到亲密的六人朋友圈了。

我们今天要谈的话题是,朋友圈不应该轻易扩大,太多人会减少亲密感。我们来分析一下。

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首先,朋友圈的扩大不仅扩大了社交圈,也带来了新的问题

吸收更多成员进入朋友圈并不困难,但这会改变原有朋友圈的结构和关系。最初的几个朋友通过长期互动形成了稳定的结构。新成员的加入可能会破坏原有的结构并打破关系的平衡。朋友圈中的关系并不完全相同。新成员将选择朋友圈中的一些成员作为关键社交对象。原始朋友圈中的一些成员可能被边缘化,新成员将逐渐增加他们的声音。因此,原来的朋友圈已经改变,出现了新的问题。

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其次,朋友圈不应该太大,太多人会减少彼此的亲密关系

The circle of friends is not an acquaintance circle, nor a circle of friends. It should be a very good relationship. In general, the number of friends in the circle is not too many. If a circle of friends lets more members join, it will reduce the intimacy of each other. After all, everyone's time is limited, and the time and energy invested in socializing is limited. If you only invest in fewer people, you can establish a more intimate relationship, and if you want to invest in a lot of people, then Can establish a general relationship. The expansion of the circle of friends may increase the number, but it reduces the quality of the social.

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Third, if there are new members in the circle of friends to join, be sure to seek the opinions of each member

Everyone wants to have more friends, social relationships are also relatively changing, and some friends circle does have the need to expand. For example, if someone has a similar interest and a good relationship with everyone, consider adding him to a circle of friends. You can't join because someone has a good relationship with a friend, but you need to get the consent of each member. If everyone thinks that they can expand, they can join new members. If someone disagrees, it should keep the original circle of friends, because this circle of friends is a circle of friends.

The circle of friends can continue to expand, but the circle of friends should not be easily expanded. Too many people will reduce the intimacy of each other. If you know more friends, you can create a new circle of friends instead of changing your original circle of friends. Dear friend, what do you think about this article, let's leave a message.

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